Judge Judy

I have been accused of being a black/white thinker and of being judgmental. Yes…it’s true. Those are my tendencies. I do think there are times and circumstances when such thinking is appropriate and healthy. I do also realize that there are areas of grey in my own life, and that I am in need of way more grace than I ever thought. So, I do really want to try and give grace and understanding before judging.

But, I must admit, my black/white/judgmental thinking reared its ugly, pointed head when I read this tidbit on the celebrity pages of azcentral.com.
(Yes, I read trashy celeb gossip. It’s my guilty pleasure. Let's move on.)

According to reports, here are Dave Navarro’s thoughts on his recent split with his wife, Carmen Electra.

“...he and Electra remain on good terms despite their split, and intend to help each other through this difficult time. He added in his posting: ‘What does amicably separated mean? It means that Carmen and I love each other, we are and always will be best friends. In fact, we are supporting each other through this time. What better way to get through a tough spot than with your best friend? And that's that.’”

What? Maybe when he says they "love each other," he means it in the same way that Julia Roberts did when she exclaimed "I love everyone!" in her Oscar acceptance speech a few years ago...

I know marriage is messy and complicated and often full of grey areas…but I don’t understand this. I mean, doesn’t this “amicable separation” sound a heck of a lot healthier than some marriages? They love each other. They’re best friends. They want to support each other. If that’s true, they should be staying together, right?

And that's that.

Love,
Judge Judy